Dating, breaking up, being single, becoming committed, breaking up again…the process of finding love and a partner can be exhausting and demoralizing at times. The search for the right fit is complex and, while luck is certainly involved at some level, it takes more than good luck to find a lasting, committed relationship. The most important and significant part of the process has to do with YOU.
- How are you presenting yourself?
- Do you let people see the real you?
- Are you selling yourself short and not going for the partner you really want?
- Are you picking the “wrong” guys or gals time after time and expecting a different outcome?
- Do you genuinely feel that you are worthy of healthy, long- lasting love?
- Are you able to maintain your sense of self while dating or in a relationship?
These are just a few questions that you should be asking yourself on your dating journey. Sometimes we have blind spots and we truly cannot see what we could be doing differently. Of course no one can guarantee you a relationship, but exploring these issues in coaching can make you feel more confident as you navigate the search for the right relationship.
If we are wired for connection and relationships, why is it so hard sometimes? It is common for our “stuff”, “issues”, “baggage”, whatever you want to call it, to surface in our closest, most intimate relationships. It’s in relationships where we feel the most scared and vulnerable, but it is also a place where we can experience an amazing sense of security and acceptance.
Some of us have to re-learn what healthy love feels like due to past hurt and disappointment. In other cases, we are scared to commit and let someone into our lives. Or, perhaps we are afraid to be alone so we cling to relationships that we know aren’t right for us.
Love and relationships can be confusing. I’m here to help you sort through the confusion so that you can gain clarity about what you want and need in your most important relationships.
Did you know that the average American spends almost 2,000 hours a year working? That’s a lot of hours! Many of us spend more time at work than we do anywhere else in our lives. It makes complete sense that our happiness and life satisfaction is greatly impacted by how we feel about our work. Do any of these statements resonate with you?
- I just fell into a career without really thinking about it.
- My current job doesn’t seem to fit me anymore, but I’m too scared to leave.
- I’m overwhelmed by the idea of choosing a career path. I don’t know what I want to do.
- I am not happy with my job, but it pays well so I’m just going to make it work.
- If I could start over, I’d be a (fill in the blank), but it’s too late.
My focus is on the psychological barriers that keep you from pursuing work that will be more fulfilling for you. While I may utilize some career assessment tools in our work, I’m most interested in addressing the fears and insecurities that are preventing you from embracing your unique talents and moving toward a more rewarding career.
Self-image, self-worth, self-confidence…we have a lot of names for it these days, but so few of us actually feel like we have it. And, even if we’re lucky enough to feel it most of the time, life circumstances can sometimes shake our confidence in ourselves. Maybe you’ve been told all your life that you are smart, attractive, and talented but for some reason you don’t believe it. Or, perhaps you didn’t have the good fortune of having a family and community that helped foster your sense of self-worth.
Whatever your circumstances, it is so important to be rooted in a foundation of belief in yourself. Life is so much more enjoyable when you trust yourself to make decisions, set healthy boundaries with others, and when you believe you deserve to be happy. Believing in yourself doesn’t happen overnight; it’s a lifelong process. However, exploring some of your negative self-talk and roadblocks in coaching can help you move toward a more confident, assured way of living.